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Identify Obstacles – Children!

My children are definitely one of my obstacles, but in a good way. 
I want to work out, I want to be a healthy role model. 

But more than that I just want to be with them. 

This evening I lay on the front lawn while my girls ran around the street with their friends. They kept coming over to chat and sit with me and their friends. It took me twenty minutes to get through a page of my book but I wouldn’t change it. I could have read in the back garden in peace. 

Soon they won’t want to come and tell me there’s a cute boy moved in a few doors down, or ask me to watch a cartwheel or hear a silly song they just made up. 

Now they want to be with me too. 

But that means until they go to bed I am Mum. I’m a working Mum too so no time during the day to workout.

So how do I get round it?

I workout with my kids. 

My five year old loves yoga, or anything where she gets to show off how insanely pretzel bendy she is. My eight year old just likes joining in and will follow whatever DVD we put on. She does have a soft spot for kick boxing and martial arts though. 

I do the workout properly, I use my weights and I push hard. 

The girls. Sometimes they give it their all, sometimes they don’t. Their ‘weights’ are Barbie dolls. It’s not about the workout for them. It’s about time spent together.

Dad doesn’t join in so its girl time and they enjoy it just as much as I do. 

What are your obstacles? How have you overcome them?


Creepy Dolls


First of all, sorry for the naked dollies! I wanted to show the shape accurately. Should this have an 18+ rating now? Haha!

In the photo are three of my daughters dolls.
The first is a 1960’s Cindy doll, originally my Mum’s. Second is a 1990’s Cindy doll which used to be mine. Lastly is a 2014 Monster High doll which is part of my oldest daughters collection.

What is going on with these dolls?

Doll one has a slender figure, a flat tummy with a slight hourglass shape. Her breasts are small but realistic. Her legs are well toned and her head isn’t too out of proportion for her body. She came with a majorette outfit.  A short shirt but a high neckline along with boots and a hat. Not too bad.

Doll two. Who called the plastic surgeon? Her waist is all of a sudden ridiculously tiny almost on par with the size of hef neck. And seeing how each breast is almost the size of her head it’s a wonder her tiny waist hasn’t snapped in two! If there is any savings grace here, at least she still has fairly well toned legs and a good sized bum on her. Clothes wise she came with leggings, a turtle neck top, a jacket, boots and a hat. So at least her voluptuous form was well hidden.

Now as if we aren’t appauled enough by the state of doll two, lets assess doll three.

Oh good grief! Who designs the Monster High dolls? Anorexic doesn’t even come close! Her head is gigantic sitting on the sticks that assemble her body. At least the wonder-boobs are gone but what’s with her back? My spine curves like that, albeit to a lesser degree… so I see a physiotherapist. It’s not attractive, it’s painful! Her arms and legs are both spindly twig like forms and there are no signs of hips or a bum anywhere. Clothing… stripper boots and a “dress”. Although at that length I use the term loosely.

When did dolls get so creepy?

My daughter asked for Monster High dolls for Christmas and between us family members she got four dolls. I hadn’t realised how creepy they looked. It’s not just them, there are so many  different brands of anorexic role models. It’s really sad. Why can’t dolls reflect more closely how people actually look?

I’m trying to turn my daughters away from dolls and more towards toys that involve building or creating something but it’s hard. Their friends have whole sets of these dolls and peer pressure is a tough thing to beat.

My oldest daughter is seven and already thinks she’s fat. Or to be more specific she thinks her toes are fat, her hands are fat, her tummy is fat. There isn’t an extra ounce on her that shouldn’t be there.

I recently discovered A Mighty Girl. A website full of ideas an products designed to help our daughters becomemore yhan what they look like. Engineering toys, books with strong heroines, a huge collection of ideas.

Down with creepy dolls!

If their toys are going to influence them I’d rather it be a positive influence. A reassuring,  empowering influence that encourages and promotes their individual strengths and wants in life.

I don’t want either of my daughters ending up as critical of their appearance as I am of mine.

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